Writing an obituary for your husband

Writing your husband's obituary means telling the story of the person you built a life with, often while you are still in shock. You don't need perfect words. You need the facts, and a few details that sound like him.

Things only you can add

• How you met, and how long you were married
• What he was like at home, not only at work
• The phrase he said so often the family can finish it
• What he did for the people he loved — the quiet things

How to list the family

As his wife, you are listed first among survivors: "He is survived by his wife of 41 years, Ana." Then children (with their spouses in parentheses), grandchildren, his parents if living, and his siblings.

If it's hard to write in the first person

Obituaries are written in the third person, which can make it easier. Many widows ask a son, daughter or friend to read the draft aloud to them before it's sent.

Example

Fictional example.